Do you want to know how to stop struggling with friendships? Choose to be friends with yourself first!
I know, I know… Sounds cliche, but it’s the truth.
The way that you treat yourself is the way that you will allow others to treat you. So, if you can come up with a list of things that you wouldn’t want any of your friends to do to you… Or ask yourself how you’d want a friend to treat you…
What would that look like? After coming up with that response, take a moment to ask yourself this: If there was a version of you out there who did all of the things that you didn’t want to be done to you by a friend, would you be friends with you? I’m guessing the answer to that is absolutely not!
Friendships are not supposed to be difficult… They’re supposed to be exciting! Your friends should make you happy, not stress you out. They should allow you to be more of yourself than who people want you to be. You should always be free and open to express yourself without being judged, or attacked for who you are.
But let’s say that isn’t the case for you… Your friends drain you.. They don’t excite you… And they don’t make you happy either… That is not okay!
You are worthy of better friendships! I’ll let you in on a little secret… You are not obligated to remain friends with anybody and this is great news because you will rid yourself of so much pain and anguish after letting go of toxic friendships. Quality friendships over Quantity. The years you have been in these friendships are great. However, are they genuine quality friendships that are growing with you, or are they the same friend doing the same things you knew over 10 years ago. Let’s save this one for the third point. Keep reading to see the 3 things you need to know to stop struggling in friendships.