I know you are worried about trusting others but do you trust yourself? We have to really think about how second-guessing yourself really impacts you? It usually leads you down this rabbit hole of overthinking. Trusting yourself helps with your decision-making and building your confidence. A lot of times you listen to what other people have to say about you instead of what you have to say. I have been giving my VIP members which you can join here, a challenge of not asking for anyone else’s opinion on what you need to do for yourself. I want you to try this for a week. I got great feedback from those that have tried to do this challenge. If you haven’t tried I want you to try it this week. If I haven’t heard from you about the challenge How did that go? Did you find it challenging or easy? Comment and let me know.

You are struggling to trust yourself because

1) You are being Hard on yourself: 

Be kind to yourself. Half the things you say to yourself you wouldn’t let anyone else say that to you. Treat yourself like you would a friend. If a close friend was going through the exact same situation what would you want them to hear? You notice how you have more compassion for the friend you speak to than you do yourself. Self-compassion is key here.

2) You’re Hearing but not listening to you:

When you say yes when you really mean no all that is Self-Betrayal. If you think about it you’re literally lying to yourself so yes it helps the other person but puts you on the back burner. Remember our first tip you treating yourself like you would a friend so if your inner knowing is saying No you have to listen to her. Think about the times that you did not listen to yourself and how that felt. This has to be a daily practice. If you need water, get some, if you need rest make a plan to get it. Follow through with what you’re saying. I want you to think about how do you tend to trust other people though usually, it’s when others follow through with what they say they’re going to do. When you know a friend is reliable, you can tell stuff to her/him and you know that she will listen and feel safe. I want you to know you need that feeling for yourself too. Follow through what you say you’re going to do daily. Remember to listen and follow through. If you know your next step feels right for you go for it. If you find yourself still struggling with this book a one-on-one session on this page here.  

3) You’re letting fear block you into moving forward:

Fear thinks it’s protecting you if you know that the next step is going to get you to the person you want to become. Let fear ride in the passenger seat rather than the driver seat. You can acknowledge the fear but we are not going to let it run your decisions. Fear easily can keep us stuck when in all reality fear thinks it’s helping you. When you’re used to your comfort zone and try to move outside of it. Fear knows it’s something new so tries to keep you in your comfort zone. I know the feeling of uncertainty can be scary for you yet it can also be exciting. With the feelings of Uncertainty, you get to create what happens as you listen to yourself and follow through with it. It’s a simple process but I didn’t say it is at all easy. If you find yourself still struggling with this make sure to sign up for my list for the weekly updates, events and programs that can help you along your healing journey. I’m Ready For the Tips     If you have been in a toxic relationship and are ready to get the information to help you thrive after it made an impact on you. My Signature Life After A Narcissist Program has a waitlist that you have to be on for the next upcoming group. So, If you are ready to invest in you Join Us in the upcoming Life After a Narcissist Program Signature program where we break down the steps in knowing how to look out for toxic relationships and breaking the people-pleasing cycle. Remember narcissist doesn’t have to be a romantic partner it could be family, exes, friends, or whoever has been a toxic person in your life.  

“I came to Samantha because not only is she a woman of color, but she’s one who has herself experienced a relationship with a narcissist. She understands and can relate to the experiences I’ve had which was critical to me healing. I also can see that healing is, in fact, possible since I work with her and see evidence of it. The group program also helped us to work with people who have also experienced the narc relationship and the abuse that stems from it. It’s so helpful having this group of people to talk with, empower, and support you as well.”-Verified Client J.W There is no need to feel like you have to go through this alone.

Think about it in 6 weeks where could you be right now?

Start the process in trusting yourself. Your future self will thank you.